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June 3, 2013

Jealousy Quote | Erica Jong on www.bunnyanddolly.com

I’ve been struggling with a serious case of envy for the past couple of weeks.

Every few months the green-eyed monster rears its ugly head. The last time I experienced strong feelings of jealousy was back in March when I turned 33.

I think it would be easier to handle my envy if it was directed towards celebrities. I mean, don’t we all wish we were rich and famous? Then I could remind myself that starlets are few and far between and that the chances of any talented actress/musician/model getting a big break are slim.

But I’m not jealous of celebrities (at least not today). I’m jealous of you.

Yes, you. My peers. Ladies with whom I have more in common than Oscar or Grammy winners. Other young women and moms who share their lives via social media.

This time, however, I’m not solely jealous of your blog’s success.

I’m envious of superficial things — where you live, what you wear, the fact that your hair cooperates in humid weather — rather than, say, your acting ability or vocal prowess. For example, I’m jealous that you live on the coast and can take weekend trips to the beach. I’m jealous that you have weekly coffee dates with friends and frequent date nights with your husband. I’m jealous that you wear shoes my long, narrow feet don’t fit into.

I’ve been dealing with these types of complicated emotions long enough to understand that they stem from being discontented with aspects of my own life. I also know that the pictures you share on Instagram and the stories you tell on your blogs don’t paint the whole picture of who you are.

Although I make it a point to be open and honest on Bunny & Dolly (case in point: this blog post), there are still things I choose not to share. Personal matters that only those closest to me know. And I need to remember that, surely, you do the same.

“Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.” – Erica Jong

Mariah designed this month’s Desktop Designs with a quote I chose to remind myself that your life is (probably) not as perfect as it may appear to me. That you have struggles and bad days and regrets. That, like me, you’re not sharing all of the really private, really ugly things. And that I make assumptions about your life because I don’t know the whole story.

Unless your life really is that amazing, in which case, I should stop reading your blog.

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  1. Elaine Ellis

    June 3, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    This is something I just wrote about it… For me, it’s been reminding myself that people only share what they consume, not what they save. I have my own financial goals and that’s what I need to remind myself when I see something I want to buy on someone else’s blog.

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    • PJ

      June 4, 2013 at 9:02 pm

      That is so true, Elaine. Thanks for bringing it up. I’m going to try to remember that the next time I’m feeling jealous over what someone else has purchased.

      Reply
  2. Esther

    June 3, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    A few things that might inspire jealousy on our side:
    You got to and get to go to alt! Too much $$ and babysitting for me 🙁
    So skinny! I wish!
    A basement to redecorate! We don’t have basements in Florida 🙁
    A husband who cooks?! Ha!

    Reply
    • PJ

      June 4, 2013 at 8:59 pm

      Thanks for the ego boost, Esther. Sometimes I get so caught up in what other people have that I forget about some of the things I have. Although I think I might be willing to trade my basement for your beaches! At least, I wish I could trade Nebraska for Florida (or ANYWHERE else!).

      Reply
  3. Heather from Poppy Haus

    June 4, 2013 at 2:09 am

    I am guilty of living on the coast, this is true, but I mostly have coffee dates with my kids. I know how you feel. Just remember, you are pretty awesome PJ, and you are honest, which I really appreciate more than a bunch of pretty pictures from the beach.

    Reply
    • PJ

      June 4, 2013 at 8:50 pm

      Thanks, Heather. I’m so happy that we met at ALT!

      Reply

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